Family home sale - Helping children adjust to a move

Deciding to sell your house is a significant, often emotional, decision. Whether it’s for a bigger place, a better school district, a shorter commute, downsizing, or any other number of reasons, there are a lot of factors to take into consideration.

However, one crucial factor that can sometimes get overlooked, is just how much the sale will impact your children. For adults, selling can be stressful. But for kids, especially those who’ve grown up in the home, it can feel like their entire world is shifting.

In many cases, the family home is more than just a structure—it’s a place packed with memories, a symbol of stability and familiarity. As adults, it’s easy to rationalize the sale: financial advantages, job changes, or a growing family. But for children, particularly teens and young adults, it can feel like a disruption of their entire life.

Parents often take their children into account when it comes to where they buy a home. Ironically, the very decision to sell might also be in their best interest—perhaps for better opportunities or more space—but they might not immediately see it that way.

For example, this recent realtor.com article highlights this exact issue. Parents of a California teen who was about to head off to college sold their home to save money and use the proceeds to help pay for her college tuition. Unfortunately, despite the fact that the entire decision was for her benefit, their daughter was upset, and it made the process a lot more stressful.

Prepare for Their Emotional Response…

If you have children, there’s a possibility they could be upset by your decision to sell your house, no matter how old they are, or how much you’ve taken their needs into consideration. So, here are 5 tips to help you make the decision and process as smooth as possible for everyone in your family:

Don’t assume they won’t care. Even if your child doesn’t seem attached to your home, or isn’t the overly sentimental type, that doesn’t mean they won’t feel it personally. Some children don’t express strong feelings outwardly or upfront, but that doesn’t mean they won’t feel a sense of loss.
Talk about it openly. Involve your kids in discussions about the decision to sell. Explain your reasons in age-appropriate terms, and let them voice their feelings. While they may not have the final say, feeling heard can help them process the change. You might even find their concerns are valid and worth addressing, especially if they’re attached to the home for sentimental reasons.
Don’t just spring it on them at the last minute. Talking about it openly is great, but waiting to have those open conversations once the for sale sign is installed in the front yard isn’t a recipe for success. Involve them as early in the decision-making process as possible.
Offer practical solutions. For older kids, particularly those navigating early adulthood, the idea of losing the family home might feel even more threatening given today’s difficult housing market. If your child is of age and financially capable, consider offering them the opportunity to purchase the house. If that’s unrealistic, you could suggest helping them with a down payment on their own future home from the sale proceeds. This could soften the emotional blow and give them something positive to look forward to.
Seek professional support if necessary. If your children are particularly anxious or resistant, consider involving a family therapist. Sometimes, having an impartial third party to discuss emotions and change can make the transition easier.

…But Remember: It’s Still Your Decision

While it’s important to have empathy and understanding, it’s also important to remember one thing: at the end of the day, this is your decision.

You can’t let your children’s emotions, however valid, derail necessary or well-thought plans. It’s tempting to give in when faced with their tears or reluctance, but the reality is that maintaining the family home may not be feasible or in anyone’s long-term best interest.

While it’s important to validate their feelings, it’s equally important to make sure they understand the practical reasons behind the sale. Being transparent but firm will help manage expectations and prevent resentment. If they feel involved, their resistance is more likely to ease over time.

Pro tip: It’s a good idea to make your real estate agent aware of the family dynamics, especially if your children may try to interfere with showings, or sabotage the sale in some way. An experienced agent can often help smooth the way forward with children of various ages, by either getting younger ones involved in a fun way, or being able to relate to older children and ease their concerns by making them feel heard and understood.

The Takeaway:

Selling your home when children are involved (regardless of their age) can be upsetting to them. If you’re a parent, talk openly with your children about your plans as early as possible in the decision-making process, and make sure they feel heard and understood. This will help minimize the emotional fallout and hopefully get everyone on board with the decision.

But remember, while their feelings matter, the decision to sell is ultimately yours to make, and it’s okay to prioritize your needs as well as the needs of the family as a whole. Just make sure the emotional aspects are handled delicately to avoid unnecessary tension.

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